A sweet older woman once told me that the secret to successful relationships is allowing the other party to have 10 faults and the key is to never count! It is so easy to focus on other’s faults and unattractive qualities. In turn, the other party will focus on our faults and unattractive qualities. We forget that we have the power to be the change in a relationship. Make a conscious decision to work on your relationships with your co-parent. Focus on their positive and attractive qualities. Highlight those qualities that your children will benefit from and watch as your co-parent and your children win because you changed your focus!